Are You Making The Most of Your Life?Friday, March 24, 2017
It can seem like everyone around us is making the most of their lives. Whether they’re travelling around the globe to beautiful countries (and of course a never-ending budget) getting married to their dream partner, gaining promotions in their fantastically amazing and well-paid careers or settling down to start a perfect family. Overwhelming is one word for it; unrealistic is another. Social media is to blame for a lot of the unrealistic expectations we set ourselves from watching another person live their life, because it’s only the good bits that we see. So they could be maxing out their credit cards and have a huge bill to pay when they get back from their travels that they won’t be able to cover. Their jobs have no benefits and are actually really dull, the most beautiful person is actually quite mean and the cutest babies haven’t let their parents sleep more than 2 hours since the day they were born. There’s swings and roundabouts to every situation, because that's what life is like. However it's easy to see someone's highlight reel and believe that their lives really are perfect. Instead of comparing yourself to other, what you need to focus on is you. Channel your energy and efforts into your life and stop looking at how others are living theirs. There are ways and means to start this, but it takes a certain amount of self determination to do it.
If you’re single and you’re there wondering why you can’t have a lovely married life and everything that comes with it, it’s because you’re missing one vital thing - the partner. If you aren’t confident enough to ask out somebody in person (or, as is more often the case, don’t actually know anybody to ask out), you could look to joining some free dating sites to see what’s on offer. It may just be that your perfect person is waiting on the other end of a computer/phone/laptop/tablet.
Limit Social Media
It’s hard to get started on your own path when you’re more concerned with the paths of others. As a whole, we are spending way too much time on social media - some of us have an addiction to it without even realising. If you go onto your phone and are more likely to open up an app linking you back to some social media platform rather than use it for anything else, chances are that you’ve got a little bit of a problem. It’s an easy way to pass the time, but one that is so toxic to our mindset. Try cutting it off for a bit and deleting easily-accessible apps. It's all very well using them to keep in contact with people, but chances are you spend most of your time just scrolling through mindless rubbish people are sharing. You could even go one step further and deactivate or delete your account.
A lot of people who get to genuinely good places in their lives have done so by being recognised as kind and dependable people. It’s not a trait that you can master quickly; you’ve either got it or you haven’t. If you know that you have got it but haven’t used it recently, have a think of ways that you could approach this situation. You could try using nicer words to your colleagues, offering to do odd jobs that are easy for you but hard for others to do and keep an open mind to everything.