As most couples would agree, wedding planning is a very labor-intensive process. It is especially so when you want to create a unique experience. You have to interview vendors and draw contracts. You have to choose an excellent menu for your guests, select the right décor, and choose the best location to hold your party. You have to meet your budgets to the last coin without having to spend too much or too little. But whose job is to make sure everything goes right during your wedding? Traditionally, women are known to be wedding obsessives. People expect them to single-handedly deliver a magical result after having dreamt of this moment since their childhood.
Men, on the other hand, are known to take a back sit in all planning matters. With the notion that the bride has to have control over everything, the groom rarely gives any ideas or makes any suggestions. The only area that some get involved in is paying for the wedding. But that follows with series of disagreements about how to distribute the budget. They try to minimize the spending of the bride on essential items such as choosing their dress or a photo booth hire and end up splashing money when selecting a chauffeur-driven car. However, today, men are taking a more active role in the planning of a wedding. Grooms are getting involved in activities such as searching for an excellent ceremony site. Still, it is women that dominate as the decision-makers.
Are they Better than Men when it Comes to Planning?
Women tend to try to ensure everything works out perfectly. While men may not necessarily be uninterested in the wedding day plans, they tend to assume that everything will work out correctly. However, the expectation of male and female behavior when it comes to wedding planning is very outdated and unkind to the marriage. Rather than choosing who is better than the other in wedding planning, both male and female counterparts should work together. The benefits of working together are more than just having a good marriage. You may create amazing memories while working together or even realize a career pathway in the wedding industry. How you plan your wedding will determine the tone of your event. It will also tell how you will make decisions together with your spouse in the future. When you decide to plan the wedding on your own, you risk nurturing feelings of exclusion, resentment, or even frustration.
Final Thought
The pressure to create an exciting event can be exhausting to the bride. You should instead collaborate with the groom and make the planning a team effort. As the groom, you should invest your time, consideration, and interest on your wedding day. Discuss what you both want as you prepare for the big day, and according to your strengths, determine what each of you should do. Take time to shop for items together as it will give you time to bond with each other. Rather than just showing up, share your ideas and choose whatever you come into a consensus on.
